Online Dating Tips Part II : When Meeting in private

I usuay meet in online dating site . I really don’t want to meet in public. Is it safer for me to host or for them to host?
There are safety advantages and disadvantages to both.
If you host:
Leave all valuables out of sight, locked away, or with a trusted friend.

Keep items that could be weapons out of sight (scissors, knives, bats, etc).
Stay awake the entire time the person is there ‐ no sleepovers the first time. Items can disappear while you are asleep and your safety could be in jeopardy.
Generally speaking, it is better not to host if you don’t live in a secure building. Remember, after one visit, the person knows where you live.

Keep your cell phone charged and close to you at all times*. If someone refuses to leave when you ask them, some options include using command type language (i.e. “Get out of my house now”), calling police, calling a friend, or activating your silent alarm (more below). Do what makes the most sense to you.
*The police or your friend(s) can’t be there immediately after you call. This is a good safety measure to employ, but don’t count on it being your only one.

If they host:
PLEASE tell at least one person the exact address where you will be and for how long.
Set up a silent alarm (more on this below).
Bring your phone and keep it charged.
Do not accept drinks, even water, at the person’s home unless you observe the drink being poured. Date rape drugs have no odor or flavor even in water.
If somebody else is at the home when you get there, exit. Most people hosting a guest will ask roommates to clear out.
If at any point you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, leave immediately. You don’t have to give an explanation. If someone prevents you from leaving, firmly re‐state your intention to leave. More under the “Use your Voice” section below.

Isn’t it rude to leave? What if we haven’t ‘finished?’ Shouldn’t I finish what I started?
NO. You have the right to change your mind and cease sexual activity at any stage. Your emotional and physical safety comes first. Consenting does not take away your right to stop. If someone doesn’t respect a boundary you set, no matter how small, this is a sign that they may not respect other boundaries as well. You deserve to be respected at all times. Leave if they do something you ask them not to. You will find other sexual partners.